A British “trad wife” says she has become a “high tier” spouse by refusing to argue with her husband and keeping drama out of the home.
Laura Zachary believes her role is to support her husband, Zion, while he takes responsibility for earning money and providing for the family.
The 37-year-old describes herself as a “high tier wife” – a woman who understands exactly what her husband needs and helps him “pursue his calling.”
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Laura says she was raised with traditional values and agreed with Zion, 34, before they married that she would stay at home while he worked full-time and paid the bills.
“He takes full responsibility for those things, which means that I am safe and I can work in the field that I’m naturally designed to work in, without getting stressed and without losing my femininity,” Laura, from Hampshire, told Whats The Jam.
“I am safe and I am protected because I understand my role as a wife.
“I don’t try to take over and tell him what to do.
“I don’t try and tell him a better way to do whatever it is that he’s trying to do.
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“I let him perform his role.
“If he makes mistakes, I let him make mistakes.
“If he does something where he needs to correct it, God corrects him.
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“That is not my position.”
The couple divides responsibilities between them, with Laura looking after the home while Zion handles finances and major decisions.
Laura said: “This means he goes out more, goes to meetings and podcasts on our behalf.
“He carries the burden of the finances and bills and takes care of the things we need for our family.
“For example, we have recently been considering getting a new car so he has made all the calls, gone on test drives and has dealt with it all.
“I take care of the smaller things in the home, such as laundry, cooking, buying food and cleaning.”
While Zion has been a Christian since his teenage years, Laura says she embraced the faith more recently but has always enjoyed supporting and encouraging her husband.
She describes Zion as “the Lord” of their household and says her role is to remove everyday pressures from his life so he can focus on bigger responsibilities.
She said: “[These values] are important because we believe in staying within God’s design for us.
“I simply cannot carry the burden that he does as it’s too heavy for me.
“Most women nag and complain.
“They are a victim to their marriage and they haven’t learned how to treat a man well.
“I teach women to praise [their] husbands, enjoy being married and to remove modern feminism thinking from their marriage.”
The couple hope to have children in the future and say they plan to homeschool them.
Laura says they would encourage any children they have to develop their natural talents rather than follow what she sees as government expectations.
For now, though, a typical day in her life involves waking up at six, making a coffee for Zion, then spending an hour reading the Bible.
After this, she’ll go on a one-hour walk and then cook breakfast for her husband.
From nine until 11, it’s housework and then any other work she needs to do for her academy – of which she charges £49.99 for one-off assignments, £10,000 for the full year and £25,000 for private tutoring – until two in the afternoon.
Before unwinding for the day, she’ll go on another hour-long walk, prepare and cook dinner, and be ready for when Zion returns home from work at six.
To relax, they’ll spend a few hours chatting, going for a walk together or watching a movie.
One of Laura’s more controversial views is that women should not share all of their feelings with their husbands.
While she believes there is nothing wrong with opening up occasionally, she says some women place too much emotional pressure on their partners.
Laura said: “Some women use their husbands as a therapist and share their feelings daily.
“Men are not designed to hear all this, plus they desire to fix problems, naturally.
“He has enough things to do in his day and it’s not always necessary to put more on him.
“Timing is key.”
Laura says she regularly receives messages of support online, particularly from women interested in adopting similar values.
She now coaches women on how to become what she calls “high tier wives”.
She said: “A high tier wife is above all ordinary wives.
“She is strong enough to elevate her husband and raise daughters to do the same.
“She raises sons to follow their call from God also and teaches them to submit to God.
“She doesn’t argue with her husband or bring drama into the home.
“She keeps it peaceful.
“She learns her husband and what he needs.”
Laura says she teaches women to forgive past hurts and focus on building healthy habits.
She added: “I teach them the importance of looking nice for their husband, how to speak to him, and encourage him.
“I teach them how to build a business that runs itself so it doesn’t interfere with taking care of her home and family.
[I also share the importance] that looking unkept is disrespectful.
“Women represent their husbands.
“So looking good for him is something that is important to me.”
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